News

Jul 22, 2015

The Sandusky County Department of Job and Family Services along with the eight counties listed below implemented a call center know as COLLABOR8. These nine (9) JFS Departments share a telephone and imaging system between counties to service public assistance consumers.

Aug 29, 2013

A Sandusky County Grand Jury recently indicted Fremont resident, Kelly Provonsha, on charges of tampering with records and grand theft.

Nov 7, 2012
Child Support Web Portal Now Available
 

Time Out

It's been around since dunce caps and corners. With a modern twist, Time Out can be a valuable discipline tool.

As we go about the business of teaching our children proper behavior, there are times when emotions threaten to get out of control. When this happens, it's wise to separate yourself from your child so that you can both cool off. Time Out can be used as an effective, positive tool. There are three different ways to use Time Out, each having a different purpose.

  • To give the child time and space to cool off and calm down.

The key here is in the attitude of the parent. In advance, let your child know that when her behavior is out of control she'll be asked to go to her room. Tell her that when she is calm and under control she may join the family. How she chooses to use the time is her business, as long as it's respectful of people and property. Screaming or pounding the door is not acceptable, reading a book or another quiet activity is fine. This is a valuable life skill that will prevent your child from "flying off the handle" and saying and doing things she might regret later.

  • To give the parent time and space to cool off and calm down.

There are times when we get so angry at our children that we want to scream, hit, or ground them for life! This is the time to use a four-letter-word: E X I T. Make a brief statement, "I'm so angry, I need a minute to think." Then go to your room or send the child to his room so that you can calm down and regroup. This will help you get yourself under control, and it provides good modeling for your children.

  • As a method for stopping a specific misbehavior.

This can be an excellent way to put an immediate stop to a child's action. It brings a strong message, "This behavior is unacceptable and it will stop now." There are several keys:

 
  • Be quick.   Catch your child in the act. Delayed reactions dilute the effect.
  • Use selectively.Use for hitting, talking back, and whining or other specific problems. Don't over-use.
  • Keep calm.Your anger only adds fuel to the fire and changes the focus from the behavior of the child to your anger. This prevents you from being in control.
  • Stick with it.Once you say, "Time Out," don't back down or be talked out of it. If you decide to use Time Out to control hitting, for example, use it every time your child hits. Eventually, he'll decide that it's more fun to play without hitting than to sit alone in his room.

Time Out is only one effective discipline tool for parents. When used with other positive methods it helps you feel good about the job you are doing with your kids.

 

By Elizabeth Pantley, author of Kid Cooperation and Perfect Parenting. © 2002.
Adapted from gateways to prevention
2003 child abuse prevention community resource packet